“I have been through some terrible things in my life; some of which actually happened.” – Mark Twain
Use the logical part of your brain to convince the scared part of yourself there is no danger. At least none that you can’t deal with.
Dwelling on your negative thoughts and feelings are not good for you
- It will keep you stuck
- The more you focus on the negative than the tendency the more you will focus on the negative.
- Give yourself breaks from thinking about the problem
Research reports that the distraction that requires concentration like chess is better at preventing worry than a mindless one like watching TV.
Experiment what works best for you
Re-source
Re-evaluate
When going through a new change – What’s the worst thing that can happen?
- In these situations, we are telling ourselves a story of limitation. In those circumstances, what works is a technique of taking a story to the very end so we know we can survive it.
- Ask yourself…”And then what happens?”
- Let’s you access all of our inner and outer resources to come up with a solution you can live with, or perhaps even thrive as result of.
- It doesn’t matter if in reality you choose something different than you had imagined. What’s important is that you get in touch with your capacity to go on.
craving and resource from “Adaptability” – How to survive change you didn’t ask for – by M.J. Ryan
