What is the purpose of the irritation? None whatsoever. Why did you create it? You didn’t. The mind did.
- It was totally automatic, totally unconscious.
- Why did the mind create it? Because it holds the unconscious belief that its resistance, which you experience as negativity or unhappiness in some form, will somehow dissolve the undesirable condition.
- This of course, is a delusion.
- The resistance that it creates, the irritation or anger in this case, is far more disturbing than the original cause that it is attempting to dissolve.
Feel yourself becoming transparent.
- Now allow it to pass right though you. It is no longer hitting a solid “wall” inside you.
- Instead of having a wall of resistance inside you that gets constantly painfully hit by things that “should not be happening,” let everything pass through you.
Instead of going into unconscious reaction and negativity, such as attack, defense, or withdrawal, you let it pass right through you.
- Offer no resistance. It is as if there is nobody there to get hurt anymore. That is forgiveness. In this way, you become invulnerable.
- You can still tell that person that his or her behavior is unacceptable, if that is what you choose to do. But that person no longer has the power to control you inner state.
Don’t look for peace. Don’t look for any other state than the one you are in now; otherwise, you will set up inner conflict and unconscious resistance.
- Forgive yourself for not being at peace.
- The moment you completely accept your non –peace, your non-peace becomes transmuted into peace.
- Anything you accept fully will get you there, will take you into peace. This is the miracle of surrender.
- When you accept what is, every moment is the best.
- That is enlightenment.
Re-source: Refocus
By witnessing the resistance, you will see that it serves no purpose.
- By focusing all your attention on the Now, the unconscious resistance is made conscious, and that is the end of it.
You cannot be conscious and unhappy, conscious and in negativity.
- Negativity, unhappiness, or suffering in whatever form means that there is resistance, and resistance is always unconscious.
- All negativity is resistance.
- As long as negativity is there, use it as a kind of signal that reminds you to be more present.
- “Wake up. Get out of your mind. Be present.” “Attention. Here and Now. Wake up.”
Start by acknowledging that there is resistance.
- Be there when it happens, when the resistance arises.
- Observe how your mind creates it, how it labels the situation, yourself, or others.
- Look at the thought process involved.
- Feel the energy of the emotion.
A Buddhist monk once said, “All that arises passes away. This I know.”
- “I have learned to offer no resistance to what is; I have learned to allow the present moment to be and to accept the impermanent nature of all things and conditions. Thus have I found peace. “
craving and resource from “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle
