Overtime, as we betray ourselves, we come to see ourselves in certain self-justifying ways. We end up carrying these self-justifying images with us into new situations.
We don’t see people straight forwardly as people. Rather, we see them in terms of the self-justifying images we’ve created.
- If people act in ways that challenge the claim made by a self-justifying image, we see them as threats.
- If they reinforce the claim made by a self-justifying image, we see them as allies
- If they fail to matter as a self-justifying image, we see them as unimportant
Whichever way we see them, they’re just objects to us.
Resource: Relationship
We need to honor others as people
- as a person with needs, hopes, and worries as real and legitimate as our own
- have a feeling of something we should do to help another
craving and resource from “Leadership and Self-Deception” by: Arbiner Institute