Be true to yourself
- Let your values be your compass as you navigate life.
- Spot-check your behavior for consistency with your values.
- Practice seeing yourself from an outsider’s point of view.
- Borrow only with permission
- Protect your realness with self-confidence.
- Discount the reasons you have for disliking yourself.
- Periodically revisit the real you.
- Create your own personal history chart
Be true to others
- Don’t forget your past.
- Share your glory.
- Practice humility
- Watch out for exaggeration
- Learn to say, “I don’t know.”
- Be honest when you make a promise.
- Recruit a reality coach
Someone’s lack of realness can lower his or her likability by lying, hypocrisy, and insincerity.
- Let the true you come out to play, and let others share your passions, fears, emotions, beliefs, and vulnerabilities.
- Share your realness
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Be present with others
- Dedicate blocks of time for discussion
- Turn off all interruption devices.
- Ignore obvious distractions.
- Fend off any interruptions.
- Maintain eye contact.
- Relax your body.
Admit your mistakes
- Admit to yourself you are wrong.
- Don’t delay your admission of guilt.
- Have a face-to-face conversation.
- Provide details
- Explore remedies
- Be willing to correct yourself when you are wrong.
craving and resource from “The Likeability Factor” by Tim Sanders
