ICRAVE Opposite Sex Energy Relationship

Power struggles arise in romantic relationships. 

• We’ve always wondered what causes the bliss and euphoria of love to end; to suddenly turn into conflict.
• It is a result of the flow of energy between the individuals involved.

When love first happens, the two individuals are giving each other energy unconsciously and both people feel buoyant and elated.  

• That’s the incredible high we all call being “in love.” 
• Unfortunately, once they expect this feeling to come from the other person
  • They cut themselves off from the energy in the universe and beginning to rely even more on the energy from each other.
    • Only now there doesn’t seem to be enough and so they stop giving each other energy, and fall back into their dramas in an attempt to control each other, and force the other’s energy their way. 
  • At this point the relationship degenerates into the usual power struggle. 

The reason we can become addicted to someone of the opposite sex is that we’ve yet to access this opposite sex energy ourselves. 

• The mystical energy that we can tap as an inner source is both male and female. 
• We can eventually open up to it, but when we first begin to evolve, we have to be careful. 
  • The integration process takes some time. 
  • If we connect prematurely with a human source for our female or male energy, we block the universal supply.

The problem starts in our early family. Most parents up to now, have been competing with heir own children for energy, and that has affected all of us. 

• Because this competition was taking place, none of us have quite resolved this opposite-sex issue, of being able to integrate our opposite sexual side.
• We’re all stuck at the stage where we are still looking for our opposite-sex energy outside of ourselves
  • in the person of a male or female we can think of as ideal and magical and can possess sexually. 

Re-source: Reintegrate

In terms of our ability to evolve consciously, we are faced with a critical situation. 

• When we first begin to evolve, we automatically begin to receive our opposite-sex energy. 
  • It comes in naturally from the energy in the universe. 
  • But we must be careful, because if another person comes along who offers this energy directly, we can cut ourselves off from the true source…and regress.

Until we learn how to avoid this situation, we are walking around like a circle half complete. 

• We look like the letter C. 
• We are very susceptible to a person of the opposite sex, some other circle half complete, coming up and joining with us
  • completing the circle that way – and giving us a burst of euphoria and energy that feels like the wholeness that a full connection with the universe produces. 
• In reality, we have only joined up with another person who is looking for their other half on the outside too.
• This is a classical co-dependent relationship and that it has built-in problems that begin to arise immediately.

We can still have romance but first we have to complete the circle on our own. 

• We have to stabilize our channel with the universe. 
• That takes time, but afterward we are never susceptible to this problem again and we can have a higher-relationship. 
• When we connect romantically with another whole person after that, we create a super-person.

By resisting the “love at first sight” feeling for a while, and by learning to have a platonic relationships with members of the opposite sex is how we avoid these bad encounters. 

• By understanding who these opposite-sexed friends really are on the inside, one breaks past one’s own fantasy projection about that gender
  • and that releases us to connect again with the universe
• The idea is to begin to experience that sense of well-being and euphoria experienced in the first moment of a co-dependent relationship when you are alone. 
• After that, you evolve forward and can find that special romantic relationship that really fits you.

craving and resource from “The Celestine Prophesy” by James Redfield