If you’re striving to make others comfortable – especially in your interpersonal communications – one place to start is to accept others for who they are.
- You have two choices: You can act as though you tolerate people, or you can appreciate people.
- Those who appreciate people are going to make others more comfortable
Bosses who are the best communicators let the subordinate explain the idea.
- The boss first smiles and thanks the person for coming in with a suggestion.
- Then the boss uses a question-and-answer approach – a dialogue – to help the person think through the implications of the idea until it’s apparent that it needs work.
- Getting positive reinforcement for the contribution, at least, makes the person comfortable – even motivated – to come up with a better idea.
- Isn’t that the goal anyway?
If you make others uncomfortable, they may never approach you again.
- There’s a cost to that – in morale and in the choking off of that one possible great idea in ten.
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Do you bring other people up or down? This may be the most important question facing you in your career and your life.
Create a more comfortable climate and people will respond more openly.
- According to motivational speaker Zig Ziglar, winners are thermostats – they set the right temperature. Losers are thermometers – they go up and down according to conditions they think are outside of their influence.
To lighten up doesn’t mean you become a comedian. But if you can appreciate humor and occasionally see the light side in stressful situations, you’ll be the kind of person others enjoy being around.
But even if you don’t have a good sense of humor, you can still make others comfortable in other ways.
- You can become known as a person who is trustworthy.
- You can choose not to engage in gossip or sarcastic remarks about others when they are not present.
- You can avoid giving phony compliments but, whenever possible, say positive things about others.
craving and resource from “You Are The Message” – Getting What You Want by Being Who You Are – by Roger Ailes with Jon Kraushar
