ICRAVE How to Be Liked by Others

By doing certain things, you’ll be welcome anywhere. Here are some of those ways to make people like you.

Become genuinely interested in other people.

• You can make more friends in two months by becoming genuinely interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.
• One can win the attention and time and cooperation of even the most sought after people by becoming genuinely interested in them. 
  • “We are interested in others when they are interested in us.” 
• A show of interest, as with every other principle of human relations, must be sincere. 
  • It must pay off not only for the person showing the interest, but for the person receiving the attention. 
    • It is a two-way street – both parties benefit.

Smiling is a simple way to make a good first impression

• You must have a good time meeting people if you expect them to have a good time meeting you
• Your smile is a messenger of you good will.  Your smile brightens the lives of all who see it.

Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language

• We should be aware of the magic contained in a name and realize that this single item is wholly and completely owned by the person with whom we are dealing… and nobody else. 
  • The name sets the individual apart; it makes him or her unique among all others.

Be a good listener

• Encourage others to talk about themselves.
• If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener. 
  • To be interesting, be interested. 

Talk in terms of the other person’s interest

• As all leaders know, that the royal road to a person’s heart is to talk about the things he or she treasures most.

Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely

• Pass on a bit of honest appreciation without trying to get something out of the other person in return
• All of us want our friends and associates to be, “hearty in their approbation and lavish in their praise.” 
  • We want the approval of those with whom we come in contact. 
  • We want recognition of our true worth. 
  • We want a feeling that we are important in our little world.
• Talk to people about themselves, and they will listen for hours.

Re-source: Recondition

Everybody in the world is seeking happiness – and there is one sure way to find it.  That is by controlling your thoughts. 

Happiness doesn’t depend on outward condition.  It depends on inner conditions. 

• It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy.  It is what you think about it. 
  • “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.”

“Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together

• By regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling. 

• “Thus the sovereign voluntary path to cheerfulness, if our cheerfulness be lost, is to sit up cheerfully and to act and speak as if cheerfulness were already there.” 

craving and resource from “How to Win Friends & Influence People” by Dale Carnegie