If you want to grow and be free to explore life, you cannot spend your life avoiding the things that might hurt your heart or mind. You must look inside yourself and determine that for now on, pain is not a problem; it is just a thing in the universe.
- Someone can say something that can cause your heart to react and catch
fire, but then it passes.
- It’s a temporary experience
- If you feel insecurity, embarrassment, jealousy; it’s just a feeling
- Laugh at it, have fun with it, but don’t be afraid.
- It cannot touch you unless you touch it
- If you can’t handle the pain you will react by closing in order to
protect yourself.
- Once you close, your thoughts will try and rationalize why you are right, why the other person is wrong, and what you should do about it.
- If you buy into this, it will
become a part of you.
- For years the pain will remain inside and eventually become one of the building blocks of your entire life.
- It will shape your future reactions, thoughts and preferences
- When you deal with a situation
by resisting the pain it causes, you will have to adjust your behavior and
thoughts in order to protect yourself.
- You will have to do this so nothing aggravates what you have held inside about the incident.
- You will end up building an entire protection structure around a closure
If you have the clarity to watch this happen and understand the long term consequences, you will want to be free of this trap.
- You will never be free until you get to the point where you are willing to release the initial pain instead of avoiding it.
- You must learn to transcend the tendency to avoid the pain
Re-source: Reception
the way in which a person or group of people reacts to someone or something
If life does something that causes a disturbance inside of you, instead of pulling away, let it pass through you like the wind.
- Things happen every day that cause inner disturbance.
- At any moment you can feel frustration, anger, fear, jealousy,
insecurity or embarrassment.
- If you want to be free, you have to stop fighting these human feelings.
When you feel pain, simply view it as energy
- Relax and Release
- Stay open and receptive so you can be present right where the tension is
- Let go and give room for the pain to pass through you
- Just see it as energy and let it go
craving and resource from “The Untethered Soul” by Michael Singer