“Pain pushes until vision pulls.”
- Transition has been brought on by an unasked for change. When this happens one chapter of our lives has come to a close and a new one is about to begin.
- The uncomfortable gap in between is what it means to be “in transition.”
View your life as a book of many chapters each with its own dramas, excitements, requirements, and difficulties.
- This encourages us to see the narrative of our lives underneath the surface of our day to day activities.
- Go back through your life and name the chapters that you have lived so far
- Give them title just like a book
- Look at the pattern
Envision your next chapter
- What would you like the next chapter to be called?
- There should be some sense of excitement when you say it
- be in touch with real desire
The more we connect toward where we want to go in our lives, the more energy and enthusiasm we will have for the journey
- Like in a book you usually don’t what exactly is in the next chapter until you have lived it.
- That’s what makes life so exciting and challenging.
You are not just at the mercy of outside forces. Your life has a trajectory that is created from some mysterious combination of outside pressures and internal longings.
- It is part of our job to become more aware of who we are and offer more of what we have to give
Re-source: Revise
Our brains are constantly taking what happens to us and making meaning out of it. (like movies in our head – storytelling)
- In a certain way, each of us is a master story teller
- We can tell ourselves a story “my life is doomed, it will be like this forever and it it’s all my fault.” Or “there is still something I can appreciate out of my life, it’s only temporary, and it is something that is happening to lots of people.”
- Come up with a two stories using the examples above about your circumstances that you can believe in.
- The second positive story has to have the exact same circumstances with it with a different interpretation.
- Create a different way you are talking to yourself about your circumstance.
- What story do you wish to tell yourself about the adapting that you are doing right now?
Hope is Positive Psychology
- “Hope is the ideas and energy you have for the future”
- It helps you be more creative and resourceful in your thinking
craving and resource from “Adaptability” – How to survive change you didn’t ask for – by M.J. Ryan
