Sometime the desire to make yourself understood is so strong that you want it your way and you don’t even realize that it is just a thought
- You just think this is the way the universe is (my world, my way).
- You think the rest of the world is cruel and mean
- You think “When I’m in power, I’m going to assert my power.”
- These is a prescriptions for disaster
Probably our most desperate desire is to connect and to belong.
- We will do it at any price
We need to focus on “being,” which has never been acknowledged in any kind of affirming way.
- We don’t teach these kinds of skills in schools
- having the direct experience in their own body
- We don’t teach “being” in school, we teach competitive doing.
- A lot of people are not ready for competitive doing because they are not seen.
- They need to be seen first. They need to be honored and acknowledged.
- Feel “being,” affirmed from the inside in ways that have never been felt before.
Re-source: Response-able
Many of us are learning impulse control.
- The only tool we are using is a hammer. But if you have a lot of different tools then you don’t need the hammer.
Expand the repertoire of your perception
- Just see that another person’s bullshit is not your bullshit.
- Many times we just need to choose to walk down another street in our thoughts
- instead seeing the impulse to “eradicate” someone with just a thought.
- How limited is your repertoire for communicating?
Be aware of your Reactions and Impulses
- There is no need to take it so seriously
- Some people may have an apparatus (screw unloose) but for most of us, if you are breathing, then you have more right with you than wrong with you.
- There is the potential to reformulate your relationship to reality such that you can do things that are life-enhancing rather than self-destructive.
craving and resource from “Mindfulness Meditation in everyday life” by John Cabet Zinn