Most people are mixed up when it comes to understanding their emotions, and how they react to things in their lives.
- Most people put the responsibility for how they are feeling and what they are experiencing in their life on something outside of themselves.
- “You hurt my feelings. You are making me feel bad. You are embarrassing me. You made me unhappy today.”
Live the notion that “Everything I experience in my life is a result of my perception of whatever is out there in the world.”
- Nothing outside of you can make you unhappy, miserable, depressed, stressful, fearful, etc.
- There are only people thinking stressfully, fearfully, etc.
- Nobody else can control your emotions.
Nothing is more important to you as a human being than having a daily sense of purpose – a vision of your life.
- By definition, you cannot feel fulfilled by someone else’s accomplishment.
- Everyone past all of their defenses, wants to feel significant, unique, special, important as a human being.
“If one advances in the direction of his own dreams and endeavors, to live the life that he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours?”
- David Thoreau (speaking about success)
When you take the risks and advance confidently, and to do the things that mean something to you, success ironically follows you in ways that you never dreamt were possible for you.
- But if you chase success (paychecks) then there is no inner peace.
- When you lack inner peace, you lack a reason for living.
- You lack a sense of purpose.
Progress is impossible if you always do things the way you have always done things.
- As long as you are willing to stay as you are, or to stay only with the familiar and not take risks, try new things; then it is impossible to grow and have progress.
- No limit people are excited by the unknown.
Re-source: Regain
to gain (something) anew : to get (something) again : obtain possession or use of (something) again after losing it
It is a real low level place to be when you are questioning your value/worth/esteem as a human being.
- When you are always focused on “I got to prove my value on the basis for you to like me,” that is another low level.
When you take every moment in your life and see it as complete and whole, and total; then the things you want will start arriving in your life.
- Your limitation is to love and accept everything that you are right now.
If you blame someone else for something else outside of yourself, then you rely on someone or something external to yourself to bring you up.
- Alcohol, drugs, approval, money, etc.
A no limit person is inner directed. They consult their inner signals, to decide what is right or wrong for themselves and to decide about their own life mission of what they are going to do.
- Would, could, should, might, maybe, must – You hear it all the time.
- If you believe you’re valuable, and somebody else doesn’t believe you, that’s your reputation
Self-image, self-esteem is not based on how they feel about themselves but how others feel about them.
- If someone else is negative and says something that you disagree with and you find yourself shifting in order to get others to like you
- The more you do that, the more you find you are a people pleaser
Ways to change your mindset
- You only have six months to live.
- It can really change the way that you feel.
- You may feel bad today but you are not going to waste it feeling bad when you can waste it feeling a lot of other things.
- "Those little mini problems that I think I have today don’t mean anything because they are so small compared to what is possible and important."
- “There is nobody in this planet that can ruin my day.”
The key to a positive self-image is self-confidence.
- To be a great anything, is by first going out and doing it again and again and again
- Confidence comes from behavior, risk taking, not being consumed by if others will laugh at you
If you don’t have self-confidence in yourself, get up off your rear end and do anything that will make you feel a little better about yourself today, and then do it again and again.
craving and resource from "How To Be A No Limit Person" by Dr. Wayne Dyer