We each exist on our own planet with our own rules, assumptions and conclusions – most of which we created so long ago that we are not even consciously aware of them.
- We are not seeing life as it is but as we conclude it to be.
- Our minds instantly jump to stories,
assumptions, conclusions, and beliefs.
- This can be dangerous if we get caught up in our interpretations
You can begin to be aware of your mind doing this by noticing what habitual stories you tell yourself in times of change.
- Condemnation does not liberate, it suppresses
- We may say “it’s not my responsibility,” “I don’t want to,” “I don’t have the time,” “this isn’t fair,” ”It wasn’t supposed to be like this,” etc.
- Underneath all these messages is a cry “I don’t know how to adapt and I am upset that I have to!”
Get clear on what is happening so we can get down to business of dealing with it
- Gather the facts like a newspaper reporter
- “Acceptance is not submission. It is the acknowledgment of the facts of a situation. Then deciding what you are going to do with the situation.” – Kathleen Casey Theisen
Re-source: Refined
As soon as you become aware that a wave of change is coming your way:
- The first thing to do is get down to the bottom of the ladder. It is more stable down there. That means getting all the facts of the situation and resisting impulse to jump to assumptions.
- “It is a capital mistake to theorize before one has data. Insensibly, one begins to twist facts to suit theories instead of theories to suit facts.
- Remember often the facts are not as bad as our stories about them.
- Instead of complaining that you can’t, why not celebrate that you can
- “Whether a change is bad luck or good depends to a great extent to what we make of it.”
- “Luck is found through your capacity to see the opportunities and meet it with enthusiasm.”
- Recently broken up? “You don’t know it yet but this break-up is some new guy’s lucky day”
craving and resource from “Adaptability” – How to survive change you didn’t ask for – by M.J. Ryan
