- Low self-esteem is the poison that erodes the connection between your actions and the your intentions.
- Believing in yourself is an essential part of healthy functioning in all aspects of your life
- People with positive self-esteem have healthier stronger connections with others
- “People will treat you as badly as you let them”
- Self-esteem is the key to success in any endeavor or else we shy away from life rather than engaging in it
Without a foundation of truly valuing yourself, you run the risk of sabotaging your success.
- This
is one of the reasons people backslide after they achieve a goal, they don’t
feel they deserve the happiness their
success will bring them (self-sabotage) so they destroy what they accomplish or
they quit before the finish
- Afraid that once they show the world they can do something, the world will have a new set of expectations.
- Now that they proved they are able, the world will expect success out of them and they worry about continuing to succeed
- As with success, the risk of letting people down is higher and to people with low self-esteem, letting others down is the worst thing imaginable because they define their own value by pleasing others. How many of us are guilty of this pattern?
When you accomplish something for yourself; that is the best feeling
- You carry it with you like armor.
- You apply it it every situation or task that you approach, giving you that quiet inner strength that it takes to go after what it is you want.
Activity: create a list of all your success (big or small) and go back to this list when you are feeling fear.
Re-source: Reflections
Self-Esteem is a self-fulfilling prophesy
- The more you like yourself the more you begin to act in likable ways
- The more you believe you are able to achieve something, the more likely you are to do so
Self-Esteem Evaluation
- How do you feel when you look in the mirror? Do you hate to look in the mirror?
- How well do you accept complements? Do you tend to detract them?
- Do you actively pursue relationships with people that you like?
- When
someone you like or are close to gets success or in a happy relationship; Are
you…?
- Envious, but you know your time will come
- Sick with jealousy
- When you make a mistake, do you try to fix it, devastated by it and fear making other mistakes?
- How much do you care about hoe other people think?
- Do you have trouble asking people for help?
- How do you speak to yourself? Negatively?
- Do you do nice things for yourself? How often?
- How often do you apologize? When it is your fault, very often, or all the time (even bumping into someone instead of saying excuse me?
Is there anything more important than your relationship with yourself?
- It is the one thing you can control and it controls all that you do.
Be patient and loving with yourself, and keep showing up. Even if you think what you are doing is having little effect, it is; so, have faith.
Reinforcement:
craving and resource from “Unlimited” – How to build an exceptional life – by: Jillian Michaels
reinforcement from “Be Inspired” – https://youtu.be/wbmDPLqwWqQ